How Romantic
Posted 15 July 2008 in Life, the Universe, and Everything by Catriona
We were watching Bones last night, and the husbands of one murdered woman and one missing woman were assisting with enquiries by pulling out cherished photographs of their loved ones.
After a brief pause, Nick turned to me and said, “You know, I really should carry photographs of you in my wallet.”
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Tim wrote at Jul 15, 12:44 pm
… Has Bones moved to Monday nights now?
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Catriona wrote at Jul 15, 01:14 pm
That wasn’t the response I expected this entry to draw, but no: we’re catching up on old episodes via other means. I’m not sure when Bones is on, now: I think it clashed with something else we watch, though.
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Tim wrote at Jul 15, 02:36 pm
Ah. It was on Thursdays.
Yes, Nick probably should carry photos of you. I thought that was in the rulebook couples get.
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Catriona wrote at Jul 15, 10:25 pm
They’re more guidelines, really.
I thought the “carrying photos of one’s other half” phase passed fairly quickly, actually; I used to carry a photo of Nick, but I figure I know what he looks like, now.
I’m more worried that somewhere in his estimation of me, Nick thinks I’m likely to be murdered.
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Matthew Smith wrote at Jul 16, 02:08 am
Yes I thought the natural ending to “I should carry some photos of you in my wallet” would be “in case you are murdered horrifically and I need to bond with the hot crime scene investigator by showing them to her.”
But on an offensive note to people who carry pictures of their girlfriends in their wallets, I see that as a form of possessiveness or objectification because the photos are used in a bragging way maybe? Or does that fall into the “who gives a …” category.
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Catriona wrote at Jul 16, 02:25 am
Less bonding with the hot CSI than a visual tool aiding in the recovery and identification of my remains, I think. Or so I would hope.
I can understand carrying photographs of your children, especially when they’re young: often then there is a bragging element—“look what an adorable child I produced!”—but that’s perfectly natural and inoffensive. It’s also more likely that acquaintances and friends you see rarely will be more interested in pictures of your beautiful children than of your beautiful spouse.
As I say, I once carried a picture of Nick; at the beginning of the relationship, I was going to Sydney for six weeks (for work) and meeting up with old, old friends who’d never met him. A photo was a useful prop then, and it never occurred to me that it might be a possessive act—but then the early stages of a relationship are often a little like having a fabulous new ‘possession’ that you can’t stop talking about.
Maybe I should start carrying photographs of my furniture?
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Nick Caldwell wrote at Jul 16, 02:27 am
I suspect I shouldn’t carry around photos of my iMac, should I?
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Tim wrote at Jul 16, 02:29 am
To kill two birds with one stone, carry photos of Nick standing next to your furniture.
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Catriona wrote at Jul 16, 02:32 am
Nicholas, for you to kill two birds with one stone, you should store photographs of your iMac on your iPhone.